Friday, July 24, 2015
The Group Photo
Before our lives were documented and shared in real time there was mystery and romance. We took photos, had them developed and picked them up a day later. Picking up photos was an exercise filled with wonderment... much like receiving a letter in the mail or meeting a person with whom we feel a kinship.
We need not think in terms of digital photos replacing framed pictures. Facebook updates will not displace our need to call an old friend. There exists a need for nostalgia and mystery in the midst of all this turnkey interaction. A person is not a profile or a brand. You will not discover what embraces one's heart by reading an online resume.
Everyone can contribute to making your life better. You may just be too impatient to open the photo album.
Before there were selfies, there were group photos. There was a time that we cared to gather a group and document our time together as opposed to just taking pictures of ourselves.
I used to keep my photos in a Monkees lunchbox. On a Sunday afternoon I could open the box and see pictures of myself with thousands on people; the greatest joy in this exercise was remembering someone I had forgotten. Where had they gone? What had they become? Hopefully they are OK!
Self affirmation has never been easier to attain. You can post a picture of yourself in social media and 100 friends will tell you that you look great.... even if you don't. Branding yourself can be a great use of social tools. Pretending you lead a life that you do not will catch up with you.
The Group Photo
How much time do you take to embrace others as opposed to turning the camera on yourself. If narcissism fuels your success you may be in denial.
"Happiness not shared is wasted" - Chris McCandless
People are difficult: they have contrary opinions, egos and a limited amount of time. Too often we propose a meeting with an old friend simply to tell them how well we are doing (or worse to complain about our lives).
Your friends should see you laugh and you should be there to embrace them when they cry. If you cannot pick up the conversation where you left off 10 years ago... those people probably are not your real friends.
It is easy to "like" a photo or post a comment. It's far more difficult to travel 200 miles to see a friend before they die.
It takes far more time to make a few meaningful connections in life than it does to develop 100 followers online.
That which is easy is never sustainable........Open up the photo album.........
Don't Forget to Remember!